The Shift from Doing into Being

by Lauren Berley, republished from January 4, 2014

The image here is an abstract of a heart-shaped stone against a backdrop of textured sand with a swipe motion, lines and natural shapes. These elements feel just right to me when I think of the shift from Doing into Being, particularly with Authentic Way Coaching for the Gifted and Creative.
“Untitled, Malibu Beach Walk Image,” ©2021, Lauren Berley Studio

In coach training, one of the earliest skills we were taught to employ was shifting from Doing into Being.  It is a relatively simple process of preparing to be fully present for a coaching client.  But in my daily life, it is a blind spot currently being illuminated.

I am a person historically over-run by my own Intensity, Complexity, and Drive. How it has manifested varies, but usually has been something to do with pushing, pushing, pushing.  Even in prayer or meditation, I have been Doing.  In the empty space of the mind I would “make” a prayer, make “deals”, and never quite reach the thinkless mind.  I never could see the value of empty space, or witnessing the mind.  It made me feel bored and antsy. In essence, I was uncomfortable with facing the discomfort, so I didn’t stay with it.

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Happy is the Observer

The grandeur of Venice, Italy during Carnevale provides stunning and stimulating views of a revered old tradition. Regarded as a tourist trap to some Italians, I found the participants to be committed to the integrity and authentic roots of this festa, and was therefore creatively satiated, to say the very least! Authentic way coaching for the gifted and creative makes visual connections between what you've visioned and will vision again.
“Sunrise in Venice,” ©2011, Lauren Berley Studio

by Lauren Berley, republished from January 27, 2014

Learning to trust my gifts is quickly becoming my greatest expression of “letting go.” Actually, it’s exhilarating to let go of everything I once understood as the gospel of humanity: inner chaos.  

In the place of all that noise and misinformation is the supportive, productive, and creative Everything, that I can finally hear.  It gives permission.  And it gives understanding.  Tools and answers too.  The right people come.  Even big surprises.  Learning to properly package my insight and release it in digestible pieces is taking some self-discipline and introspection.  Mostly, it is taking some good alone time to understand what I am learning.  And trust.  And observe.  And be fully present, the only way to integrate such bigness.
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The Misallocation of Gifted Resources (and how ICD gives us a bad rap!)

Like a freight train, this draft team thunders through space and time, barreling along with tremendous horsepower. This energy defies the senses of sound and perception, much like the intensity, complexity, and drive of the Gifted and Creative mind. Lauren Berley has the innate sensibilities to take you on the journey to your own Authentic way of being, and to thrive in that space to design your most meaningful life.
“Drive,” ©2020, Lauren Berley Studio

by Lauren Berley, republished from February 1, 2014

ICD can drive us like a runaway eight-horse draft hitch. But learning to funnel these traits productively empowers us to make great strides.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ICD (Intensity, Complexity, and Drive) and as I am learning to balance these traits, I have no choice but to look in the rear view and see an illuminated picture of how things went down, and why.  It’s a pretty big relief, not so much because things make more sense looking back, but because Lord knows how grateful I am that those things will NEVER happen again.  Moreover, I will no longer be a misunderstood, hypervigilant, overwhelming, flammable person.  

Those traits have no power over me anymore, because I can see them clearly and shuffle them around.  In essence, I can access them when I choose, instead of blindly misallocating them while spinning like the Tasmanian Devil in Doing mode.

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Creative Tension: The Uncomfortable Gap Between Reality and Your Vision

This is an image of a nautical rope, depicting creative tension, an uncomfortable stage in the creative process that never feels good, and thus we classify it as a bad experience. Authentic way coaching for the gifted and creative aka Lauren Berley, will continue to share great information for more of those ah-ha moments.
“Untitled Nautical Rope,” ©2012, Lauren Berley Studio

I’ve been experiencing some discomfort lately, a gnawing confusion, a sense of straddling two worlds, as I described to my friend, a brilliant organizational coach in Europe. She suggested I Google author Peter Senge’s (the Fifth Discipline) description of “Creative Tension” to see if it bore any resonance. Here is what I found.

The gap between vision and current reality is also a source of energy. If there were no gap, there would be no need for any action to move towards the vision. We call this gap creative tension.

Peter Senge, The Fifth Discipline

I found this video on YouTube. Peter Senge uses a rubber band to illustrate what happens in the space between reality and vision, relating it to historical markers and Dr. Martin Luther King’s exemplary “I Have a Dream” speech.

Oddly, I can follow this construct quite fluidly in big-picture examples and visions, but parsing it into application within a personal creative practice is taking me a minute. But I think I’m starting to flow into it. Basically, what I’m getting from this is that the “pain point” that is reality would exist without friction/energy independently and void of relationship to the vision/creation, thereby remaining in an unchanging state. So with the advent of a vision, the space between reality and that vision is energized by the “need” to transport reality toward that vision. I like it. Science.
So why does the concept become so off-putting to me when applied to a corporate or organizational structure? See if you feel me here…

I borrowed the logo from Inc Magazine respectfully, because I found a great article there, describing creative tension. I found his bullet points and wanted to share them on my authentic Way website for gifted and creative coaching.

This Psychological Theory Will Motivate Your Team to Achieve More in 2018: Tension can create focus, heightened activity, and maximum productivity.

In his article (link above), Chris McGoff states that:

“Peak performance leaders pay close attention to the amount of creative tension being experienced by their people and they know how to increase or decrease this tension as appropriate.” 

He continues to explain that there are three crucial components to creative tension, and that to establish and maintain creative tension, there must be agreement on the following:

1. Current reality.

Your people must have a collective understanding of the way things are today. They need to be brutally honest and recognize the absolute truth about their current situation. Shared understanding of “what is” generates a sense of authenticity and credibility.

2. Desired future.

Your people must have a shared vision that moves and inspires them. The vision must be articulated in such a way that people are motivated to do whatever it takes to realize it. The vision is less about employees or the company.
A powerful vision is about the world and the opportunity to help cause this great world you desire. You will need to decide what needs to change about the current reality to achieve this vision.

3. What’s at stake.

In addition, and critical to the establishment of healthy creative tension, people must be convinced that something important to them is at stake if they don’t resolve this gap. Your people must have a shared and felt sense of consequence should they not rally and achieve this vision as well as a clear understanding of the benefits of moving ahead.

What is the off-putting part? Well, as I was reading along in the Inc. article, I must have been simultaneously processing the concept of creative tension, from the Peter Senge piece above, and relating to it. So, by the time I was reading the second piece with even more of a corporate/organizational frame around it, the notion that organizational leaders “know how to increase or decrease this tension as appropriate” feels “Big Brother” to my sensibilities.
It seems that if you were the organizational leader, you might want to spend a little time getting to know the team and asking the right questions to identify that there are varying levels of tolerance and performance in response to tension. Some of us work in this manner innately, and are able to reconcile and balance our experience to perform our best in this self-generated model. But the notion of a person in leadership applying intentional tension “as appropriate” to increase output performance is precisely why I have never worked in a large organization. That entire set-up would be a big fail in my department, I can assure you. No, I can promise you. The dispensing of deliberate tension by a leader to an already-high-achieving self-bar-raiser would be not only unnecessary, but undoubtedly counter-productive.
I didn’t start this post intending to push against the interesting information I have mined from the Organizational Coaching scene. I’m just saying that it has taken ages for educators to evolve into the fact that education is not and will never work as “one size fits all,” so why would organizational solutions with adults be any different? The way we process information, prioritize mental tools, tasks and steps… not the same or everyone.

The Challenge to Focus

This image from the Utah desert nearly perfectly captures the struggle of holding a vision and maintaining focus through a racing mind. Authentic Way Coaching for the Gifted and Creative has a blog with all sorts of tips and tricks for managing the very big and complex personality that is ours.

For years, I was an utter slave to mind chatter.  It has, quite honestly, ruled my life.  Once I identified it, I became even more frustrated by the amount of energy I had given up to this nagging and gnawing that always seemed to show up right when things were getting good.

Untitled Image from the Utah Desert, ©2012, Lauren Berley Studio

Buddhists call it the “monkey mind,” and, my guess is, you know it well. No matter how many times you sit down to focus on something, it tugs at you like a nagging child at your pant leg. Persistent and incessant, the mind operates as its own organism with individual needs, separate from the brain you thought you were using to focus, and it won’t stop until we are exasperated and look it dead in the eye, with a big “Yes, Dear!”

Yoga and meditation are ages-old methods for calming the monkey mind, practices that guide the practitioner toward a peaceful, blissful, and more reasonable state from which creativity can flow freely. But let’s face it: You’re trying to work, and in this moment, that’s what you’d like to be doing. Not yoga. Not meditation.  
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