How I Unwittingly Closed the Gap by Curating for the Future

This is a photograph of my natural and organic dye-free easter eggs, produced right here on my little farm. I curated the chickens, choosing their breeds by egg description, looking forward to this moment. My moment has come. in this moment... right? Authentic Way coaching is committed to partnering with you to curate your unique, most celebrated, gifted, creative life.
“Untitled image of un-dyed Easter eggs, always in abundance at Lauren’s farm,” ©2021, Lauren Berley Studio

A few times in life, and even more if we’re living consciously, we can sense a tailwind accelerating us toward our vision. Like stepping on a conveyor belt, we catch on to the trajectory that aligns us to our most precious visions/yearnings/creations.

Such is the case with my little farm, locked fifteen years in the vision stage, that showed up in my now reality at the very same time that Covid-19 swept around our planet like wildfire. A fifteen-year dream, manifest in America’s rural South, is all kinds of wild, fun, mystery, work, injury, reward, laughter, some tears… wonderful! The urging of concerned people for me to stay home was energy wasted, for I’ve been waiting my entire life for a reason to do so.

It’s only in the past two years that I have been curating everything in my existence to reflect this vision of a farm/studio/retreat space, a vision I intended in 2005 at a Master Reiki Retreat in New York’s Catskill Mountains. This curation process was meant to be playful, joyous, light-hearted intention-setting. My thoughts were that in ten to fifteen years, Denver real estate would deliver me a handsome sum and it would be worth my while to sell, or whenever I’m ready. But not for quite a while. I had a life in Denver. A lovely one.

Little did I know that by the action of curating for my future, I was actually bringing the future into the Now.

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The Shift from Doing into Being

by Lauren Berley, republished from January 4, 2014

The image here is an abstract of a heart-shaped stone against a backdrop of textured sand with a swipe motion, lines and natural shapes. These elements feel just right to me when I think of the shift from Doing into Being, particularly with Authentic Way Coaching for the Gifted and Creative.
“Untitled, Malibu Beach Walk Image,” ©2021, Lauren Berley Studio

In coach training, one of the earliest skills we were taught to employ was shifting from Doing into Being.  It is a relatively simple process of preparing to be fully present for a coaching client.  But in my daily life, it is a blind spot currently being illuminated.

I am a person historically over-run by my own Intensity, Complexity, and Drive. How it has manifested varies, but usually has been something to do with pushing, pushing, pushing.  Even in prayer or meditation, I have been Doing.  In the empty space of the mind I would “make” a prayer, make “deals”, and never quite reach the thinkless mind.  I never could see the value of empty space, or witnessing the mind.  It made me feel bored and antsy. In essence, I was uncomfortable with facing the discomfort, so I didn’t stay with it.

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Procrastination: The Perfectionist’s Lie as Presented by Brendon Burchard (plus video)

This is an image of a nearly-perfect vintage MG restored near Aspen Colorado. I'm using it to illustrate and accompany Brendan's talk and blog on The Perfectionit's Lie, since if you look more closely to the MG image, you will see all the holes in the perfectionism story. I mean, who even too this Nikon worthy picture without an art director to turn the steering wheel into a dignified location. Authentic is not the way with creative and gifted art direction.
“Untitled image of near perfection, ” ©2013, Lauren Berley Studio

“The prettiest excuse we wield is the perfectionist’s lie, that crafty and vain and elegant delay logic shared with a high-chin that says, ‘You just don’t understand, I am a perfectionist so I have yet to finish.’

The reason for our holdup is so beautifully precise yet abstract; our personality is to blame. No, the reason most have not finished is because they have yet to truly begin. They got tangled up in doubt or distraction, and so they have yet to commit the grueling focus, toil, sweat, and investment that real work and creativity requires. They believe they fear the blemishes of beginnings and the faults on the path to finishing, but perhaps they fear themselves. If there were such a thing as a ‘perfectionist,’ they would at least be precise and call it like it is: ‘I am scared and distracted, and so I have yet to proceed or complete.’
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Happy is the Observer

The grandeur of Venice, Italy during Carnevale provides stunning and stimulating views of a revered old tradition. Regarded as a tourist trap to some Italians, I found the participants to be committed to the integrity and authentic roots of this festa, and was therefore creatively satiated, to say the very least! Authentic way coaching for the gifted and creative makes visual connections between what you've visioned and will vision again.
“Sunrise in Venice,” ©2011, Lauren Berley Studio

by Lauren Berley, republished from January 27, 2014

Learning to trust my gifts is quickly becoming my greatest expression of “letting go.” Actually, it’s exhilarating to let go of everything I once understood as the gospel of humanity: inner chaos.  

In the place of all that noise and misinformation is the supportive, productive, and creative Everything, that I can finally hear.  It gives permission.  And it gives understanding.  Tools and answers too.  The right people come.  Even big surprises.  Learning to properly package my insight and release it in digestible pieces is taking some self-discipline and introspection.  Mostly, it is taking some good alone time to understand what I am learning.  And trust.  And observe.  And be fully present, the only way to integrate such bigness.
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The Misallocation of Gifted Resources (and how ICD gives us a bad rap!)

Like a freight train, this draft team thunders through space and time, barreling along with tremendous horsepower. This energy defies the senses of sound and perception, much like the intensity, complexity, and drive of the Gifted and Creative mind. Lauren Berley has the innate sensibilities to take you on the journey to your own Authentic way of being, and to thrive in that space to design your most meaningful life.
“Drive,” ©2020, Lauren Berley Studio

by Lauren Berley, republished from February 1, 2014

ICD can drive us like a runaway eight-horse draft hitch. But learning to funnel these traits productively empowers us to make great strides.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ICD (Intensity, Complexity, and Drive) and as I am learning to balance these traits, I have no choice but to look in the rear view and see an illuminated picture of how things went down, and why.  It’s a pretty big relief, not so much because things make more sense looking back, but because Lord knows how grateful I am that those things will NEVER happen again.  Moreover, I will no longer be a misunderstood, hypervigilant, overwhelming, flammable person.  

Those traits have no power over me anymore, because I can see them clearly and shuffle them around.  In essence, I can access them when I choose, instead of blindly misallocating them while spinning like the Tasmanian Devil in Doing mode.

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